Do you know what you need for a good orgasm? In fact everything you need is a good lover and good mood, or in other words an erotic mood. Erotic mood implies complete relaxation and concentration on your sensations. Sometimes this seems to be quite difficult matter. I will suggest you some ideas on what you should do, or, to be precise what not to do in order to relax and get enjoyments. 1. While making love never have in your head even a thought like this
- Are kids sleeping?
- Is my husband sleeping now?
- If anyone comes in now, she will tell everyone in the office what she has seen
- What the hell is stinking so awfully here? His socks?
- He is like a monkey. Does he shave his back in summer???
Instead try to get rid of all things that prevent you from getting enjoyment and relax. Kill any thought that comes to your mind!
Concentrate on your sensations or on a part of your body, for instance on the back of your head. I don't know how it works but many women say this is a good idea.
Sex after dinner is bad sex. Drunk sex is bad sex too. Well, alcohol does not mean you will not orgasm. You will, if you can, but your orgasmic sensations will not be strong, so mainly you will get moral satisfaction (Wow, I managed to cum!)
Make sure it is not too hot in your bedroom. Sweaty bodies making love to each other in the rays of tropical sun are good only in movies. In reality heat makes you weak. What is more heat makes men sweat like…oh, I can't find an inoffensive epithet. I don't think this looks and smells very erotic.
And the last tip. Do not moan, groan, scratch his back if you have no wish to. Actresses are paid for such things, and you are not. This only will prevent you from concentrating on your sensations. Do not think he is going to consider you to be absolutely asexual unless you yell like a pet dog having her first sex with a crazy hippopotamus.
Tips for men
You can follow all the tips given above, but you will never have strong orgasm unless he knows how to give you enjoyment. Let him read what I am telling above.
So the first tip. Never penetrate her without foreplay - you are aware of this, but why don't you do that? Foreplay is the main condition of success. But do not do this like you used to: kiss her lips, then ear, then the right nipple, then you lick her pussy (to make it wetter) - and insert your penis there. This is not foreplay. This is a mockery of a porn film. Don't say - "Why doesn't she let me know she doesn't like it?" She cannot. She is afraid you will consider her abnormal if she suggests using a sex toy or kissing her heel. So do ask her what she wants.
Second tip. Stimulate every her erogenous zone - you certainly know what these are. But do not think two-three seconds are enough. Do make good use of your fingers, lips and tongue or sex toys - yeah, don't think that sex toys are something unnecessary, women love them! For instance you can stimulate her nipples with a vibrator, or you can use a clitoral pump to caress her clitoris. If you are not quite familiar with sex toys, visit an online sex toy store and find out more about these devices.
The third tip. Women who never experience vaginal orgasm do need clitoral stimulation during intercourse. You can do this yourself or let her do that. Clitoris can be stimulated with fingers, however clitoral stimulation is much more convenient with sex toys, like discreet clitoral vibrators. Is she ashamed of stimulating her clitoris while you are making love to her pussy? Than turn off the light!
The last tip. If you orgasmed before her, do not fall asleep. Help her to orgasm! I understand that your penis is weak - make good use of a sex toy, for instance of an electric vibrator or of a realistic dildo! Or let her do that. She deserves orgasms as well as you. Let her enjoy incredible orgasms! You can do that!
